Women love going the whole nine yards when it comes to the game of love. There we are, all primped up and waiting to meet Prince Charming. And there goes the moment, and Charming turns into a croaking frog. Ever had that experience?
Every now and then, when we’re spinning the wheel in the game of love, we find ourselves landing on a big red square screaming “Bad Date!”
You wouldn’t know that yet, but in a few hours, once you find yourself sitting face to face with your date, you’d realize how annoying a bad date can really be.
But before you decide to club him, or pour the glass of wine over his head, wait and give him some time to prove himself.
Assess the situation and see if he’s worth it. A few minutes more can’t really change your life, can it?
So you’re ready to go out on a date with a new guy, and you’re terribly excited. You’re on a high and can’t wait to see him. But once you get there, all your hopes and dreams just ‘poof’ into oblivion.
You take one look at him and you know it. This date was destined to be a Bad Date! Here’s something you can do to come out of the situation unharmed.
Before the date
Even if he suggests some place quiet or romantic, choose a coffee shop. A coffee shop is a good place to meet, and it’s never personal.
If you’re getting bored, you could always ask your friend to come over, so you can squirm out of this guy’s reach. Never meet up for lunches or dinners, or anything that takes a couple of hours. Stick with coffee or ice creams.
As you walk in
What do you think when you first see him? Remember, the first impression is the best, though things could always turn out otherwise, in a short while. Brace yourself and warm up. Let’s see what’s going to happen here.
The first few minutes
Once you get talking, even the worst guy on planet Earth could turn out to be quite a charmer. But if that’s not happening and your date’s being rude, obnoxious or annoying, you can leave. It’s your life you have to think about right, so why bother? You really don’t have to give a guy whom you dislike any time of your day.
If you and your date have nothing in common, endure the date but end it as soon as it is polite to do so. You needn’t extend the lunch date to an ice cream at the parlor or coffee at a café, if that was not in the original plan.
Don’t be rude
Even if you’re stuck up with a rude guy, try not to be rude with him. You could always walk out, instead of trying to pick an argument with him. So are you afraid to walk out, because you think he might say something rude to you? Then, just excuse yourself to make a call outside the doors of the restaurant, and make a run for it! You could probably call your girlfriends on the way back and laugh about the incident.
Don’t insult your date, even if he’s the worst guy on Earth and he’s wearing a fluorescent tee with red blazing words “Redbook” emblazoned on it. Get away before meeting him, if you have to. You could always call him and tell him you couldn’t make it. On the other hand, if you find him boring, don’t just cut into him, or be offensive because you’re pissed off with the fact that’s he’s so boring. He may just be nervous, and might need some time to open up.
Pointers after a bad date
Don’t blame yourself if your date went bad. It can happen to anyone, once in a while. You could probably wring the neck of the girl who hooked you up with him. Or if it was your own error, forgive yourself. Flit it away into some hidden nook inside your head. Crap happens, and it did. But hey, at least you got the chance to experience a bad date, didn’t you?
If your date calls you back, and tries to hook another date up, you could always just tell him that you did have a great time, but surprisingly, you don’t see it going forward. He may sulk a bit, but he’ll live. Who cares about him anyways?!